A Gift of Love

Posted: December 25, 2009 / in: Blog / 12 comments

Merry Christmas to everyone who celebrates Christmas, and a Happy New Year to everybody. Here is a modest gift with Love.

This is one of the most special times of the year, there is a buzz and an excitement in the air, a sense of anticipation everywhere, something magical is about to happen,…It is the time of year where families and friends unite, we take time (the time we couldn’t find during the rest of the year) to meet one another…to exchange gifts, sing songs… and sometimes to have a deeper communion with God.

However, during this time of the year we are also under attack from the material/consumer world, with advertising campaigns tempting us with all kinds of goods… The age of consumerism is still ripe, and even in the current financial situation credit cards continue to be hammered and the debt is perpetuated. We cannot go far without having our senses bombarded by advertising encouraging us to buy the ‘latest’ gadgets, toys, electrical devices, cars, perfumes, accessories…and the list is endless! ..Amid the frantic present buying, late night shopping, indulgent eating/drinking and Christmas parties… the spirit of Christmas has somehow become lost or so deeply hidden amongst the wrapping paper and festivities that we have to be very attentive to be able to re-locate its essence, (the one you may recall from when you were a child!
People are so consumed with their problems and activities and forget, or do not even consider, the most precious gift that can be given or received, the gift which is without price, the ‘gift of Love’. We can also take the opportunity to reflect here and now the ultimate gift of Love that God gave to us when he gave us his Son, Jesus Christ, to the world.
The following article is an attempt to shed light upon the gift of Love we permanently receive and sometimes give. At the end of the article is a meditation that exemplifies “Love as a gift from God”. I invite you to do the meditation while listening to the music. Enjoy and Love!

Love as a gift from GOD – the initiation into the art of communion with God by realizing the very nature of Love.

This presentation refers to a certain understanding about Love, and how we can very easily and almost spontaneously be in a state of communion with God by consciously realizing this aspect of Love.

Many spiritual traditions say that the ultimate source of Love in the universe is God, and this is not a very big mystery, most people seem to understand this. Since Love is a vibration it will have its source in God (the ultimate source of all vibrations) and from there it expands throughout the Universe through the mysterious process of occult resonance.

We can therefore say that everybody who has Love, shares Love or gives Love, receives this Love from God by a process of occult resonance (that takes place consciously or not). Furthermore, by loving and being Loved, we have the immense opportunity to become aware of the fact that the Love we have and the Love we give is a gift that has been given to us. This simple awareness will place us in a state of ineffable and intimate communion with God every time we give or receive Love; it will transform Love in our “communication channel” with God.

It might seem very simple, but if we look around we can see that very often people are not very good in receiving gifts, especially receiving gifts from God.Often people have the attitude of a spoilt child who receives a gift from their parents and without even saying the smallest “thank you”, takes the gift, unwraps it and sometimes even criticizes it for its characteristics.

tantric lovemachingSometimes they say, “Oh, it’s again Love with all its complications and the mess of attachments, jealousy, concerns, and emotional vulnerability that comes with it! You got me the same thing last year and you have given it to me ever since I was born!” This kind of superficial attitude goes well with the attitude of consuming the fruits of the actions, without caring about the action itself, the so called “consumerism” that we have nowadays. This makes us also consume the gifts that we have received without actually really noticing them and their value. We can see this for example in the way that people use the gifts they receive from nature: sometimes we can see an extremely intelligent person using their intelligence for diabolical achievements or for banal reasons, and this is only possible because the person is unaware of this natural gift. Similarly, some people have a precious intuition which they use to find out if their Lover is cheating on them or not, instead of using such an amazing gift for the higher purposes for which they have received the gift! All these situations arise because we do not know, or we are unaware of the gifts we have received.

To return to the example of the spoilt child, sometimes a child who is spoiled gets a gift and destroys it before he starts to know that gift and when he starts to understand the value of that gift it is usually too late because it is broken, he “consumed” it before getting the chance to learn how to use it. Of course, by having this kind of attitude in life we can also very often ruin the chances to properly use the lessons we are given as a gift.

In days of yore, there was a game that was played by two good friends in order to become more aware about the act of receiving. Nowadays, it is known in some places as “the wishbone game” because it is played by each holding the Y shaped bone from the chest of a chicken on one end and then breaking it. The one who gets the bigger part will give it to the one with the smaller part and this is how the game begins. The winner of this game was the one who managed to give a gift to the other one without the first one noticing it, but just taking it and using it directly. The rule was that every time you received an object from the other friend you have to say “I know”!

The profound meaning of this game is in fact very close to the tantric teachings that encourage people to increase the state of permanent awareness that will eventually take them out of this robotic attitude that destroys our life by making us become unaware of the gifts we constantly receive from life, from the environment and from people, while ultimately becoming unaware of life itself. Therefore, this ancient game was played in order to extend our awareness of the things we take in unconsciously. This phenomenon of taking in the entire stimulus, all the gifts from life, and all our attitudes in an unconscious manner leads us deeper and deeper into a state of ignorance and enhances our own limitations. All that comes to us is transformed into a limitation because we just “engulf” it without awareness.
On the contrary, when we cut off these mechanisms by starting to be aware of everything that comes to us we gradually begin to cut off the chains of our ignorance and to become freer. All that we receive becomes many reasons for freedom and happiness that do not enchain us, but instead support our freedom.

In a similar way we can play this game with Love.

People who are unaware that Love is a gift, (in fact the most precious gift that we receive in this life and actually that which links us to God) consume Love, they misuse it instead of just contemplating it and appreciating it for its right value. Having Love and consuming Love is not the same thing. People usually use Love in a very primitive way, “squeezing” the Love feeling in order to get as much pleasant emotions, sentimental comfort, and good time together with the object of our Love, and so on.

We often do that instead of developing this extraordinary energy that will give our soul wings to fly to the sky.

We tend to use Love for very few effects which we can see from the first sight. We take Love from God for granted, together with all that comes with it like joy, pleasure, the happiness to have it, and the facilities which Love offers to the soul. However, by taking it unconsciously, we just jump on it and start to consume it unconsciously, searching only for its effects, and by misusing it we lose it!

The reason we fall into this mistake is the very simple mechanism of our mind that runs the “show” of our life most of the time. The mind is usually unaware of some causes just because of the effects those causes generate – for example, if you look out through the window of your room you cannot see the air, but you will see the effects of the air moving, because you will see the trees and the leaves moving – in this way we sometimes perceive the causes only by perceiving the effects of those causes. Due to this, the effects are often “covering” the cause and we cannot see it. This attitude, or this habit of our mind, together with the consumer attitude blinds us from perceiving the real sources of the things we receive in our life and that we take for granted.

We don’t care where the food comes from, or how it is made, we just care if it satisfies our desires. We don’t care where everything that is given to us comes from and what it generates, we just care about our own needs. We are no longer amazed by the fact that we exist, that we have this amazing body that is the most sophisticated “toy” we have ever received (and probably will ever do). We are not amazed by the fact that we are given the capacity to feel pleasure and to enjoy this experience in life, and we are not fascinated by the experience of Love. All of this is because we are too busy considering the effects of all these Divine Gifts!

Because of this attitude we don’t have time to perceive Love itself, but we are always focusing on the effects Love has upon us and as a consequence when we think about Love we think about the tears we shed, the joy we have, the pleasure we get when we are in Love. We don’t speak about Love itself, and because of this we are pushed forward towards the status of that little spoilt ungrateful child.

In doing so, we don’t even have time to wonder “who gave this amazing gift to us?” Otherwise we would have the chance to “meet” God at least on every occasion in which Love was present in our hearts as a gift from Him.

By not knowing and not caring where Love comes from, we don’t know who to ask for more, we just start to suffer and cry when it is gone, like the stupid spoilt child who jumps on the floor screaming with unhappiness when his toys are taken away.

Due to this attitude in front of God’s precious gift of Love people often look like the dumb child in front of the Divine eyes. Yet the Divine eyes can see the Divine nature deep inside the dumb child.

There is another surprising aspect in realizing the fact that Love is a gift from God: this is the clearest and most simple proof we can have that God exists! How can you receive a present from someone that doesn’t exist? To realize that Love is a gift from God means to realize in fact a very important secret of our life. The aim is not only to feel Love, but also to look at it as a precious gift and then we will be able and free to lift our spiritual eyes in order to see the One who gave us this gift. In this way, we have a chance to rise above this consumer attitude, above this stage of “homo economicus” that we have reached nowadays, and to perceive the SOURCE of the most precious gift in this life.

If in this life we have permanently ignored the fact that Love is a gift from God, we live a life which is somehow ungrateful, a life which is given and not appreciated, we cannot understand it therefore we go through it without even living it.

Instead of just trying to devour all the benefits that come from Love by perceiving Love only through its effects, we will now aim to perceive Love as a Divine gift, and this should not take much practice since we are already able to Love.

However, when we aim to perceive Love as a Divine gift then we will perceive Love itself, the substance of Love and what is revealed in our hearts. We will then have the amazing chance to discover what all the saints have said in the moment of their enlightenment: we will realize that Love is God!

When we manage to perceive Love as a gift from God we have the amazing revelation that God is giving Himself to us in the shape of Love so that in this way we will always accept Him in our hearts. But only when we realize this consciously will we be able to enjoy His presence and not only the effects of His presence in our hearts. This is one of the most important steps we can make for meeting God in this life.

Sometimes we say that we have to open our hearts for God, but in fact God always comes into our hearts by the Love He gives to us. In the moments we fall in Love, in the moments we feel Love, we have already accepted God into our heart. However, only when we are able to receive this Present consciously will we be able to become aware of the Divine Presence.

This represents a genuine initiation into this mystery of the Heart. We realize that the Heart is the receptacle of this Divine Present.

We can practice this awareness in any moment of the day, in any moment of the night, and at any time in our life, and when we forget about it we just miss the chance to meet the One who gave us this present. When we remember, then again we get this amazing chance! It is always up to us to live up to this revelation or to forget it and to live in this attitude of using Love or seeing Love only for its effects.

For this initiation everyone who was ever in Love is qualified. Even for those who are skeptical, Love is an undeniable truth and it can be experienced as a Present and this will open up another perspective.

I invite you all to meditate upon Love as a Gift from God.
Begin to play the music (that you will find in the below link) and with your eyes closed, focus your attention in the chest area, in the middle of it. Feel pleasant vibrations at this level, expanding and radiating the feeling of Love without any object. Aim to realize gradually that this is a process of resonance and that these Love vibrations are coming from a Macrocosmic source that is GOD’s Heart with which you are now in a state of communion. Realize the nature of Present that these Love vibrations have…


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Comments (12)

  1. Isobel says:

    Thank you for this gift. You cannot know how much it has touched me.
    I have a hard period in my life, i have been caught in my mind and problems and could not feel my heart or the love that i am given. What you say makes so much sense, but i never saw it like this before, it is a revelation and makes things much easier to understand and deal with. I will keep reading and meditating upon it.

  2. Sundari says:

    Thank you Mihai. I embrace you with my enlightened heart

  3. Rachael says:


    This is an amazing article, a truly precious gift that has rekindled the meaning of Love in my Heart on Christmas day.
    Your words are simple but the effects are profound.

    Thank you with all my Heart

  4. Simona says:

    Dear Mihai,
    You call this article a modest gift of love but I believe that for the one seeking for transformation and perfection is far more than a modest gift.
    I have been interested in the subject of love for the last couple of years, putting myself thousands of questions regarding different aspects, how to increase my capacity to love, why I fall in love with a specific person, why it’s over after a period, many of why why why?
    But as you said one of the answer to my questions is because we are too much focused on the immediate effects of love having this consumer attitude and forgeting the cause which is an energy coming from God. Just this idea makes me go back in my experiences and realize where I made mistakes, where did I have the wrong attitude, expectations and so on but considering the entire article I can honestly say that I have weeks from now on to meditate and understand each idea exposed by you here.
    You have implanted in my heart and mind this openess and curiosity to experience life fully with all it’s hights and depths, with all it’s surprisses, giving me the opportunity to become a player in this divine game and not just a week witness.
    That’s why for me, every time I read or listen your words, I feel like opening new horisonts of my spirit, so I wouldn’t call it a modest gift but rather a precious treasure for the souls looking for a divine life.
    I remember now that two years ago in your birthday party you also presented a few elements about different aspects of love, making a meditation with each of them. I would be so happy if you would consider to publish these initiations here since they are not in any courses.
    I want you to know that I find a lot of inspiration on your blog reading and watching the videos you post here.
    Just one more example to give, when I first read your poem “Drops of love” I was overwhelmed by the beautiful feelings transmited through your words, I felt then inspired to look for more poems about love and now I constantly give time to myself for such joy of the spirit like reading poems.
    Thank you with all my heart and looking forward for the next articles

  5. DaveTS says:

    Nice one. Food for thought!

  6. Scorpio says:

    I read this and think to myself-
    ‘How can i ever allow myself to be jealous again’..
    ‘How dare i be resentful if my lovers heart is filled with God.’
    ‘How dare i assume i am the queen of his heart, when through grace, God has bestowed himself upon my lover in many different ways.’
    …. And if i allow these poor thoughts to creep up on me, i will read this article again and again and meditate until i am humbled by the almighty love of God.

    Thank you

  7. Georgiana says:

    Thank you for an inspiring article, such a lovely food for the soul.
    I consider myself blessed, because I have received fully the gift of true love, so I feel that what you write comes from the “same place” in the Heart were I experience LOVE.
    Still, being reminded of it is always an welcome gesture of friendship and compassion.

  8. Lakshmi says:

    Your gift of love just touches my heart! Thank you, my dear soul friend!
    I always felt that love is a divine gift and i felt myself blessed by loving and being loved.
    It is very important as you very well pointed out that we need to be careful with the gifts that we received from God and not to just destroy them with a banal curiosity.
    I notice in my life that whatever i was asking i received and i imagine that it is the same for everybody else. So, we are extremely spoiled by God! What we need to notice is that we have what we asked for and in this way we learn, being embraced by divine love, that our wishing becomes true, even if we change our mind meanwhile.
    Reading the article i feel inspired to love now, to feel myself in this very present moment, reconnected with the infinite source of love, God.
    I embrace you with a loving heart,

  9. carbon12 says:

    This is such a great piece of work! The idea that love have to be given and not waited is mind blowing and simple. maybe too simple and this is making it difficult to get.
    i realized in myself that i was just trying to take the best from love and not giving it to the others. the part with realizing the Giver when you receive it is also something that i totally agree as an idea even if it is a challenge for my non-religious perspective on things. i will try more but after few experiences there is something interesting that is happening already… i don’t want to fall into cheap mysticism so i will tell you later what happens.
    yet i think it is generally too much about God and too little about people in this talk. love is also about people and their feelings …. even if i admit that i don’t know precisely where these feelings of love come to the people. maybe you can elaborate on this … if i am not asking too much.
    and “scorpio” thanks for the inspiration. you really seem to get the practical point of this article and that gave me something to think.

  10. Isobel says:

    I recently had a revelation that i had never before put the needs of the others before my own, even when i thought i was for example taking care of my lover i was in reality taking care of my need to be loved and appreciated and to have a purpose. But God gave me a test to show me how i am (a test that he has been replaying in my life for many years)however on this occasion i caught it in the moment, and instead of following my usual behavior and becoming a victim and suffering, i made the conscious decision to be happy and accept the unfolding of the events as Gods wish. I felt peace in all of my cells,and His overwhelming Grace and love for me, that moment became so beautiful, expanded, everything around me became a reflection of Him.
    Afterwards i realized that i have never really loved, i have never put the spiritual needs of the others as a priority. I begin to work now on this as my priority. I wish to Know God through Love, love for the others and for Him.

    Here is a quote from the bible;
    “If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor, and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

    Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

    And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

    (Paul Corinthians 13)

  11. Beloved Shakti says:

    I understood through some recent experiences that love is the sacred space between our hearts and the hearts of our beloved and that my concern should be upon the sacred space that exists there….

    “Love entered my heart mysteriously and without warning, flooding it with Grace, colour and bliss, my beloved deeply, silently, divinely entered the chambers of my blossoming heart. Suddenly our hearts and bodies became intimately and passionately entwined, becoming One in the sacred of the most sacred unions.
    Love in these moments revealed to me many of its secrets… taking me the heights of passion, divinity and ecstasy and in the same time revealing the sharp edge of its sword…

    Love showed me it is that sacred space between two hearts. That it is as pure and untouched as the white falling snow, it is the Divine in His essence, His sacred gift to the two hearts, and when first beheld with the utmost reverence and sweet joy, the mesmerized lovers amplify the love returning it directly into His Divine heart.
    Love in those first moments is without expectation; love offers and through its nature it refines, elevates and expands the spirit. It gives the soul wings to fly through every universe beyond any border or limits, love is all pervading, transforming, strengthening and it gives freedom.

    But if we are mistaken and through our desire to possess and hold onto the magic that gave us the chance to feel God, this love is made captive, its wings are clipped, and as silently and quickly as it appeared it disappears. The mysterious and divine energy of Love simply vacates the sacred space between the two, and what is left in its place is a shadow, a place where sorrow, expectations and unfulfilled desires hang.

    When we try to box and domesticate and make the love our own, we sabotage the chance to know God through our beloved, the chance to experience paradise on earth.
    When we allow the love to unfold freely, when we Honour the sacred space between our hearts, when we unceasingly offer this energy back into His Divine heart, the love remains as pure as the untouched snow, infinitely expanding, soaring in the eternal heavenly realms of His Heart.

    Love is Freedom.
    Love is Offering.
    Love is Patience
    Love is without conditions.
    Love is God.

    Thank you for showing me this, Beloved.”

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